Access Adventure

Information for special assistance travelers

Menu
  • Home
  • Blog
  • Chillie’s Trip Calendar
  • Accessible Travel Links
  • Cruise With Chillie
  • About Chillie
  • Contact
Menu
Kristy Durso

Why do I NEVER stop talking about accessibility?

Posted on November 24, 2022November 24, 2022 by Chillie Falls

Written by Kristy Durso for her Facebook Page, November 21, 2022

Kristy Durso
Kristy Durso

So this kind of thing never happens to anyone else.

Today, my flight out of San Diego was delayed by about 45 minutes. This left me only a 30 minute connection in Phoenix.

I asked the gate agent to request that I be first off the plane so that I had a chance of making the connection.

“We don’t do that.”

Yes you do. I’ve seen them ask for passengers without a connection to stay seated so those with connections can make it.

While it is true that the general policy is to deplane wheelchair users last, it’s not impossible to make this work.

“If we deplane you first, then everyone else will miss their connection.”

False. Utterly false. I am quick. 20ish seconds to get the aisle chair on the plane, 30 seconds to strap me in, 20 seconds to get me out of the way so that I can put my chair together and get on my way.

“We need to take care of everyone, not just one passenger.”

You mean you need to take care of everyone but the me, a wheelchair user. Because by not assisting me off first, you are absolutely guaranteeing that I will miss my flight. Had I deplaned first, everyone else would have only been delayed a couple of minutes.

As soon as I heard the announcement to let those with tight connections deplane first with no mention of me, I knew that the American Airlines flight attendants and gate agents had decided not to assist me in making my flight.

I asked the gentleman behind me to block the aisle and carry my bag. I asked a woman in my row to carry my smaller bag. I requested that they each set the bags down against the wall in the round area right off the plane.

I then pulled myself out, and used the arm rests of the aisle seats like parallel bars, holding myself up and inching forward while dragging my feet behind me.

When I got the the end of the seats, I dropped to the filthy, nasty floor and pulled myself to the closet, where my wheelchair was stowed (upon my insistence – they didn’t want to do that either). I practically threw my chair out of the plane, then crawled out after it.

Hats off the the Phoenix wheelchair assistance team! Phoenix Sky Harbor International Airport As soon as they realized what was going on, they helped me get my chair assembled, and raced me out of the jetway. I didn’t have time to get names, but one in particular even quickly pushed me so I could verify the gate number.

At this point, I had less than 10 minutes until the doors were supposed to close. My smart drive decided to be a dumb drive, and didn’t turn on once. I raced my way through the airport, and made it to the gate with minutes to spare…

Where there was no aisle chair waiting for me.

I immediately told them that I needed the closet empty for my chair, and I began crying out of humility, anger, and relief.

Humiliated that I was forced to choose between my dignity and making my flight.

Anger at the lack of compassion and honestly, the discrimination from the San Diego gate agents. Why was it okay to ignore my tight connection, but make sure that everyone else was able to get off to make theirs?

Relief because I made it. I was not going to have to find an accessible hotel, accessible transportation, and safe food.

Thank you to all those that helped me get there. You didn’t have to. But the right thing was more important to you than your own comfort for the two minutes you gave me.

To American Airlines, this needs to never happen again.

I have just as much of a right as anyone else to make my connection. I did not request that you hold all the passengers until I made it to my gate. I asked to be allowed to deplane first instead of last so that I had the opportunity to make it to my gate. To tell me that you had the good of all in mind was patently false. You had everyone’s good in mind but mine.

The sad thing is just last week, I sang your praises about how well you did.

OFFICIAL RESPONSE:

– We cannot prioritize one passenger over another. We have to treat everyone equally.

– We would have assisted you if you were willing to wait. It’s a safety issue to bring on the aisle chair before everyone else deplanes, and we know that many wheelchair users don’t want to use the aisle chair with everyone watching.

– We will give you a $200 trip credit as a goodwill gesture. It was your choice to not wait.

American Airlines, you certainly did decide which passengers you valued. I do not feel that I was treated equally, as you called it.

If I had waited, I would have missed my flight. How is that equitable treatment? Also, I’m confused about the safety issue. That’s a cop out excuse. Especially since they DID get me off the plane first in San Antonio. And I clearly was willing to waive my RIGHT (not requirement) for a private deplaning experience.

You say you would have put me up in a hotel and made sure I had transportation. American Airlines, I have missed connections before. I had to fight to get a hotel. No accessible transportation was provided. Not one thing was done to make sure I’d have food safe for me. You are not good at taking care of passengers who are stranded for the night. Especially with how dismissively you treated me in San Diego, how could I possibly expect fair treatment and compensation in Phoenix?

A $200 trip credit is not reasonable compensation. Yes, I chose to make the flight I had booked. It was the last flight to San Antonio for the day, and again, I could not be sure I would be appropriately accommodated for the night.

A wheelchair user should be given the same chance to make a connection as anyone else.

About the author Kristy Durso: Entrepreneur, travel agent, disabilities advocate, and featured speaker Kristy Durso owns and operates Incredible Memories Travel, a full-service travel agency whose specialized niche is being the industry experts at special needs travel.

Share on Social Media
x facebook pinterest linkedin email

Find Your Next Cruise!

Cruisedirect

Find Your Perfect Cruise

Check This Out

Recent Posts

  • She has a disability, but this speed demon rolls with it
  • A Guide Dog’s Legacy
  • Keeping a sense of self as a carer
  • Disney to Abu Dhabi
  • Travel and Cruise Industry Podcast,  April 25, 2025

Excursions Anywhere In The World

Archives

  • May 2025
  • April 2025
  • March 2025
  • February 2025
  • January 2025
  • December 2024
  • November 2024
  • October 2024
  • September 2024
  • August 2024
  • July 2024
  • June 2024
  • May 2024
  • April 2024
  • March 2024
  • February 2024
  • January 2024
  • December 2023
  • November 2023
  • October 2023
  • September 2023
  • August 2023
  • July 2023
  • June 2023
  • May 2023
  • April 2023
  • March 2023
  • February 2023
  • January 2023
  • December 2022
  • November 2022
  • October 2022
  • September 2022
  • August 2022
  • July 2022
  • June 2022
  • May 2022
  • April 2022
  • March 2022
  • February 2022
  • January 2022
  • December 2021
  • November 2021
  • October 2021
  • September 2021
  • August 2021
  • July 2021
  • June 2021
  • May 2021
  • April 2021
  • March 2021
  • February 2021
  • January 2021
  • December 2020

Categories

  • Accessible Activities
  • Accessible Home Improvements
  • Accessible Hotels
  • Accessible Travel
  • ADA
  • Africa Travel
  • Air Travel
  • Alaska Travel
  • ALS
  • Australia Travel
  • Autism
  • Bahamas Travel
  • Bermuda Travel
  • Blindness
  • Canada Travel
  • Caribbean Travel
  • Carnival Cruise Line
  • Celebrity Cruises
  • Central America Travel
  • Cerebral Palsy
  • Chronic Illness
  • Color Blindness
  • Cruise Travel
  • Crutches
  • Department of Justice
  • Digital Accessibility
  • disability advocate
  • Disabled Traveler
  • Domestic Violence
  • Down Syndrome
  • Fibromyalgia
  • Geriatrics
  • Handicapped Traveler
  • Hear Impaired
  • invisible disabilities
  • Jamaica Travel
  • Japan Travel
  • Korea Travel
  • Mental Health
  • Mexico Travel
  • Mobility Scooter
  • MSC Cruises
  • Norwegian Cruise Line
  • Pacific Travel
  • Podcast
  • Power Wheelchair
  • Rail Travel
  • River Cruises
  • Royal Caribbean Cruise Line
  • Sensory Inclusion
  • Sleep Disorders
  • South America Travel
  • Special Needs
  • Special Olympics
  • Train Travel
  • Travel and Cruise Industry News
  • Travel Australia
  • Travel Europe
  • Travel In US
  • Travel Insurance
  • Travel Middle East
  • Uncategorized
  • Visually Impaired
  • Walkers and Mobility Equipment
  • Weight Loss
  • Wheelchair Travel
  • Whill Model C2

QUICK MENU

  • HOME
  • ARTICLES
  • ABOUT CHILLIE
  • PRIVACY POLICY
  • CONTACT

LET’S CONNECT!

  • SUBSCRIBE ON YOUTUBE
  • FOLLOW ON TWITTER
  • FOLLOW ON FACEBOOK
  • BOOK A TOUR

Access Adventure

1705 THOMAS JEFFERSON ROAD
FOREST, VA 24551
PHONE: (434) 258-9264
©2025 Access Adventure | Theme by SuperbThemes